Can You Feel The Pressure?

I know that most of our readers here on PMC are adults but prom season has prompted me to write about the pressures of losing your virginity.  This is because many teens are pressured into losing it on prom night.  It seems that a lot of young adults (especially guys) look at virginity as if it’s something to get rid of before starting their life.  I’d bet that a lot of youngins would be surprised to know that statistically most people regret their first time and usually report that they wish they had held on to their V longer.  With that said I confess that I held my V card all throughout college and still had a freaking blast.  I learned through observation that when it comes to being young that…no sex+no babies=mucho fun.  So with that said I would like to point out that I’m not saying don’t have sex until you get married that degree, but my point is don’t do it until YOU are ready.  Like they say, peer pressure can be a mutha so if you do decide to ‘get rid of it’ before heading off be sure to be safe (condoms, birth control) and remember to be above the influence.

For information about peer pressure you can visit
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/friends/peer_pressure.html

Lottery Ticket

The upcoming movie "Lottery Ticket" featuring Bow Wow has been getting a lot of press.  This movie has many people asking themselves...What would I do if I hit the lotto and who could I trust? 

20 Universal Guilty Pleasures

As long as the world exists there will be a few things that we don't want anyone to find out that we like, love, or participate in when no one is looking. Some of these things only apply to men, women, or both. This list of 20 things, which by the way aren't so bad when you really think about it, are things that people in general don't like to admit that they engage in. These are just a few that I came up with that I'm sure most of you will agree with. Enjoy...

20. Erotic kissing- Men generally ACT like they don't like to kiss but actually, most guys love it. No need to hide this guilty pleasure. We women LOVE this one too. :D

19. Latin Men- I think it's safe to say that most sistas wouldn't mind letting a muy caliente latin man set them on fire. Kind of our hidden fantasy If I may. To the sistas, these men are the equivalent to some brothas and their love for the White woman. See #9

18. Puppies & Kittens- Now we all know that these little furry things are undeniably cute and irresistible but for some reason, men don't like to admit this. That's like not admitting that Idris Elba or Beyonce is sexy. If you deny it then you lie!

17. Soap Operas-These addictive daily shows have a stigma of only being watched by older overweight ladies that do nothing but stay at home all day. I'll tell you one thing, I like them and I know several guys that like them, and watch them. Word to my college classmate Chris C. for putting me up on Passions ( My Fav Soap that went off the air in 2007) Whyyyyyy???

16. The gray area between cheating and not-This really needs no explanation. Bottom line...Some people like to play with fire. Just make sure you don't get burned.

15. Chick TV shows-Sex & The City, Friends, Gossip girl, etc. It's not very manly to admit that you know who Carrie Bradshaw met at Club Whatever and hooked up with on the umpteenth episode of S&TC, but surprisingly these types of shows have a decent amount of male viewers. They just keep it secret.

14. Texting/Tweeting/FB'ing at church-We love to do this but we know we shouldn't, so we don't admit that we do. That is all.

Question: Is Love A Losing Game?

The troubled singer Amy Winehouse said it in her song titled Love is a Losing Game but I wonder if that is true.  I guess it could be thought of that way when you look at the fact that statistically it seems to support the theory.  My thoughts however is that if you face losing a game of love then you have to look at the positives and negatives of the entire thing and weigh them to see if it was worth it. You may not be compatible with the guy/girl you love and therefore it may not work out but in the end you may gain an awesome friend. That is worth it in my book. I think that if you gain either a great friend, some very valuable knowledge of the dating game, or a better idea of the person who you are or the person who you want to be with, then the entire experience is worth it. What do you guys think?

Is love a losing game?

The Dream: Who The Eff is Nikki?

Unless you are living under a rock, you've heard about The Dreams current relationship troubles with Christina Millian.   

I'm Just Sayin: What's up with guys re-asking for the number?

All of us females get this.  You're at the grocery store or maybe the gas station and you run into a guy who you used to talk to a year or so ago.  You make small talk.  You go through the how have you beens and what's new drill. 

The Rules Of Playing Dating Games

Ok, so in my post on last Tuesday I asked the question, "When are we too old for dating games?" Thanks for all of your comments letting me know what you guys thought on the matter O_o Anywho, I think that when you play this game there are certain rules that should be applied so that we play fair. Because all IS fair in Love & Basketball. Ummm wait...off subject. Anyway, I have come up with a list of rules that we should all abide by in this crazy game if we are sleeping with each other, and here goes...

Question: When Are We Too Old For Dating Games?

When it comes to dating, men and women have been playing games for ages. One would think that by the time you reached your mid twenties playing games would be childs play, something reserved for teens and those alike. Wrong! It is still very much a part of the dating game and sometimes you have to wonder if it isn't even more prevalent as we get older.

In Honor Of: The 4th of July

“There are those who will say that the liberation of humanity, the freedom of man and mind is nothing but a dream. They are right. It is the American Dream." -Archibald MacLeish

BET Awards: Should Chris Brown Get a Second Chance?

The 2010 BET awards were last night.  Heres the rundown in case you missed it. 

Question: Has America Been Desensitized When It Comes To SEX?

After watching the most recent MTV movie awards and seeing Sandra Bullock and Scarlett Johansson pull a repeat of Brittany Spears and Madonnas 2003 kiss, I started thinking about how within the last few decades certain things that used to be considered taboo is now becoming the norm. I remember when it was impossible for me to keep my eyes pasted on the television if two women were kissing. Now I just look and feel nothing. I think it's safe to say that America has been desensitized by books, music, television, the media, and etc to view sexual prowess as normal. Even Samantha from Sex & The City's sexual openness is envied by many and the fact is, America hasn't been this open about the subject since, well....EVER.

In Honor Of: Michael Jackson

It's been a year since the death of a legend. Here are a few of our favorite MJ vids...R.I.P.

Women: How to Naturally Boost Your Sex Drive

There are a variety of reasons why a woman's sex drive can go down the toilet.  If you are one of these women, you're probably thinking something like, "Maybe I'm just not very sexual anymore," or "Maybe my age is catching up with me."  Maybe, but probably not.  Physical problems, hormone changes, psychological problems and relationship issues can all be a factors.  Here are some natural treatments and changes worth trying.

Sexual Health: HPV

Have you ever been in the shower and suddenly noticed a bump on your pubic area, just to find out that you have been exposed to HPV? Told that you have abnormal cells and forced to have them frozen off in fear that they will become cancerous? Well you are not alone. About 20 million people in the U.S. have been exposed to the virus. What is HPV? It stands for Human Papilloma Virus.

Too Sexy in the Workplace?

Last week, Debrahlee Lorenzana made headlines when her employer, a Citibank branch in New York fired her for allegedly being too good looking. Her bosses disagree, blaming her work performance on the split. Now I’ve seen my share of sexy guys at work, but I think termination is a pretty extreme punishment, especially for something that you have to half way blame (and thank) your parents for.

Sports: The Underdog

Ok, so I know what some of you guys are thinking, "What does SHE know about sports?"  Well...I know a little something, but I'm not here to act like I'm a sports fanatic because I'm definitely not.  I do however appreciate the sport of basketball, probably because my Dad used to play in college and I remember attending a few of his alumni games as a toddler. I remember asking my Mother why his shorts were so short, but that's another story.

Some Friday Linkage: Jewelry

Today's links feature jewelry...who doesn't like jewelry?

When She Says This...

Ever wonder what's going on inside a woman's head when she rejects you? Well I can clue you in to some extent but I won't give away all of our secrets. Sometimes when ladies tell you these things they actually mean what they say, but a lot of times they don't. Here goes some facts of the game that tells you...

What she REALLY means when she says…

Why Are Black Men Constantly Bashing Black Women?

First let me say that ALL Black men are definitely NOT bashing Black women. This topic came to mind during a long and boring work day when I decided to hop on Twitter for a while to see what was going on. I was minding my business and tweeting with friends when the barely relevant Houston rapper Slim Thug started talking crazy about Black women. In a nut shell he thinks that 'Black women need to stand by their man more' (I figure he thinks that the former Destinys Child singer Toya should have stood by him even though he knocked some other woman up.) B.S. if I ever did see it. Anywho, he influenced this whole trending topic ideal that people ran with that went something like, "My White side enrolled in college but my Black side only shows up for the tests." (among other variations) Although I know these jokes were all in fun, and I have to admit that some of them were kind of funny, I didn't like the whole idea of it.

The 6 Different Types of Guys

During my 27 years, I’ve ran into a lot of different types of guys. I know you’re probably thinking something like, well all guys are different. This is true, but if I had to characterize a large portion of them, I could pretty much throw them all into these 6 groups. He doesn’t have to only belong to one of these groups however, he can be a combo. You know what they say…variety is the spice of America.