I say this because the older we get, the smarter we get, and the smarter we get, the better we become at playing these childish games. I remember how in Jr High School when a kid would be mean to you, oftentimes that meant they liked you i.e. Helga Pataki on the cartoon Arnold. The games are much more serious as we grow older and men are just as bad as women if not worse. Instead of the little mundane things done as a youth, now we conveniently show up in places that we know you're going to be, or string you along until you decide you've had enough, or even worse, pitting you against other women or men that we are dealing with. It is utterly ridiculous to go to such lengths to win a game that oftentimes the other person isn't even aware they are competing in.
So my question is this...Once you reach your mid to late twenties or older, is it time to stop playing these dating games and be truthful to the people you deal with, or is these games just a part of the game of dating meant to add some excitement to something that well, statistically most likely will not last?
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I had set a goal for myself to be out of this dating scene but the time I reached 30. But I'm still "dating" so to speak. But playing these dating games have never been something that I did.. It should be that you are up front with that person. You don't want to be 40 still trying to get in the club.
ReplyDeleteI think you are technically too old once you reach legal age...yet I do think people in general play games sometimes consciously & sometimes unconsciously. The "I'm not calling him until 2 days because I don't want to seem too available." Or if it's "I'm gonna spend a lot of money on her tonight, in hopes I will get SOME soon." Some people may call it strategy, but thats just a nice way of saying...PLAYING GAMES
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you would like to think that as we get older, there is less patience for game playing. it should be more of a dance, slow and tentative at first, learning each others moves, figuring out if the souls/bodies connect..but nope. its still about subliminal BBM/Twitter/FB msgs, it's still about discussing with your girl how long you are going to give him to call you and you cant call him because it's going to make you look weak/desparate etc. its still about the dudes subscribing to the man law of being a playa 4 lyfe or some foolishness.
then of course, the women who fall for wack game and the men who give it - ruin it for the rest of us.
im so over it all! just because i want to get married, doesn't mean that i assume every guy i meet/date is going to be the groom. we're told to be honest and open, but when we are - dudes run faster than usain bolt (to di world!).
im not saying women are any better, but i just wish there was a simple solution that everyone would just follow: be real with yourself. if all you want is booty - fine! real recognizes and gets down with the real. if you want more, say so - if you dont ask you dont get. if you want out - be an adult and say so. dont disappear like david blane.
its all so simple. but yet...
@Keisha
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"it should be more of a dance, slow and tentative at first, learning each others moves, figuring out if the souls/bodies connect"
I like that statement! Yea, I really think that at some point it's time to grow up and stop with the games but I doubt that will happen. Yes it IS simple but yet...LOL SMH