Question: When Does Picky Become Superficial?

I often wonder when it comes to men, when does deal-breakers go from practical to just too darn picky. I was once turned off by a guy because I didn't like the way his fingers looked. It sounds ridiculous now thinking back on it, but trust me, if you had seen them you would understand. Thinking back on this guy made me think of an old episode of Girlfriends. On this particular one, the main character Joan was turned off by T.C. from Passions her man of the moment because he had hips so therefore wore a girdle. As I watched that episode I could almost understand her feelings. The thought of seeing my man in a girdle, which is expected to be for women, would definitely turn me off.


While in College I sat a seat over and about three chairs back from one of the basketball players from my school. My friends and I all thought he was fine and I was the lucky one that ended up in a class with him. I would listen to the lecture while slyly giving him the side eye throughout class. My peripheral vision was on point, maybe a little too on point. One day I caught him picking his nose only to fling the nastiness onto the floor. Needless to say, I never viewed him the same. I was turned off.

I imagine there is a limit that varies from person to person of how easily 'the little things' turn them off and in turn make them lose interest. In our conundrum to find a decent mate you would think one should look past certain minute things, but the truth is, we don't. The movie Shallow Hal was a great example of how you can easily miss out on your perfect match because you are simply superficial. I too am guilty of this.

So I want to know...when does picky become superficial?